Going Overboard?
While reading this month's ELLE, i came across a rather novel concept of dealing with everyday eve-teasers. There's this site blanknoiseproject.blogspot.com. i went on this site today. I went in there -always the stauch feminist that i am - ready to applaud this gutsy woman's initiative.
Check it out for yourself. Especially check the 'Eve Teasers Unwanted' section on the right of the page, slighly down. check some of the comments posted. I don't know guys, but i was a bit revolted at what the ladies are saying there. Don't the guys have any rights?
Guys, i am all for men/women not impinging upon my rights etc, but don’t you think this is going too far?! Doesn't the GUY have any rights either? We are just harking upon the woman’s right here. So we have the right to wear what we want, but the guy does not have the right to LOOK!?! I mean this is ridiculous.
I am a woman of 25, and i wear what most would consider 'slutty' or revealing outfits all the time. Do i get eve teased? You bet. And all the time. But its just men looking you up and down or saying things. That’s perfectly OK and acceptable to me. I mean it’s their mouth and their eyes. Why can’t men use those?
For me the big difference is when the guy actually comes up and TOUCHES ME. Then he is invading my space and my being. at that, i object. at that, I’m not ok. If this guy had touched you or felt you up, then by all means post his picture here. But a LOOK - C’mon on!
I am by no means implying that 'you wore XXX, so you must learn to live with its consequences ...' . I don’t believe an ounce that wearing so and so calls for guys hooting and hollering at me etc. i am saying *regardless of what i wear, i have reached a point in my life that i simply *don't care* about other's reactions - be it my fathers comments to 'dress appropriately or you will invite unwanted attention' or a lecher on the street.
Everyone has a right to their opinions. As long as its just words or looks, fine, by all means, unenlightened men go ahead!
But i am getting sick of women going on and on about *their rights*. True rights also imply that you realize others have freedoms and rights too (Though checking out girls is by no means a *right* :) ). Take it in your stride or better yet, learn the art of *ignoring* someone ladies. The sooner the guy realizes his words are going on deaf ears, he will back off. The more you call attention, the more it will continue. The only way to solve the problem of men treating women as objects is by education, which is a long term solution. Anything else is just a Band-Aid.
While reading this month's ELLE, i came across a rather novel concept of dealing with everyday eve-teasers. There's this site blanknoiseproject.blogspot.com. i went on this site today. I went in there -always the stauch feminist that i am - ready to applaud this gutsy woman's initiative.
Check it out for yourself. Especially check the 'Eve Teasers Unwanted' section on the right of the page, slighly down. check some of the comments posted. I don't know guys, but i was a bit revolted at what the ladies are saying there. Don't the guys have any rights?
Guys, i am all for men/women not impinging upon my rights etc, but don’t you think this is going too far?! Doesn't the GUY have any rights either? We are just harking upon the woman’s right here. So we have the right to wear what we want, but the guy does not have the right to LOOK!?! I mean this is ridiculous.
I am a woman of 25, and i wear what most would consider 'slutty' or revealing outfits all the time. Do i get eve teased? You bet. And all the time. But its just men looking you up and down or saying things. That’s perfectly OK and acceptable to me. I mean it’s their mouth and their eyes. Why can’t men use those?
For me the big difference is when the guy actually comes up and TOUCHES ME. Then he is invading my space and my being. at that, i object. at that, I’m not ok. If this guy had touched you or felt you up, then by all means post his picture here. But a LOOK - C’mon on!
I am by no means implying that 'you wore XXX, so you must learn to live with its consequences ...' . I don’t believe an ounce that wearing so and so calls for guys hooting and hollering at me etc. i am saying *regardless of what i wear, i have reached a point in my life that i simply *don't care* about other's reactions - be it my fathers comments to 'dress appropriately or you will invite unwanted attention' or a lecher on the street.
Everyone has a right to their opinions. As long as its just words or looks, fine, by all means, unenlightened men go ahead!
But i am getting sick of women going on and on about *their rights*. True rights also imply that you realize others have freedoms and rights too (Though checking out girls is by no means a *right* :) ). Take it in your stride or better yet, learn the art of *ignoring* someone ladies. The sooner the guy realizes his words are going on deaf ears, he will back off. The more you call attention, the more it will continue. The only way to solve the problem of men treating women as objects is by education, which is a long term solution. Anything else is just a Band-Aid.
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